What is domestic abuse?

  • Do you feel afraid of your partner?
  • Is your partner extremely jealous and possessive?
  • Do you feel you are walking on eggshells to avoid making your partner angry or aggressive?
  • Does your partner blame you for everything?
  • Does your partner pressure you to have sex when you don’t want to?
  • Is your partner consistently criticising you and putting you down in front of others?
  • Does your partner tell you what to wear, who to see, where you can and can’t go?
  • Shouts
  • Sulks
  • Smashes Things
  • Glares
  • Calls You Names
  • Makes you feel ugly and useless
  • Cuts you off from your friends
  • Stops you working
  • Never admits he is wrong
  • Blames you, drugs, drinks, stress, etc
  • Turns the children against you
  • Uses the children to control you
  • Never does his share of the housework
  • Never looks after the children
  • Expects sex on demand
  • Controls the money
  • Threatens or wheedles you to get his own way
  • Seduces your friends/sister/anyone
  • Expects you to be responsible for his well being
  • Is Cheerful
  • Consistent
  • Supportive
  • Tells you look good
  • Tells you you’re competent
  • Uses your name
  • Trusts you
  • Trusts your judgement
  • Welcomes your friends and family
  • Encourages you to be independent
  • Supports your learning, career, etc.
  • Admits to being wrong
  • Is a responsible parent
  • Is an equal parent
  • Does his share of the housework
  • Accepts that you have a right to say “no” to sex
  • Shares financial responsibility
  • Takes responsibility for his own well-being and happiness

Domestic Abuse during Covid-19

During the Covid-19 pandemic and the subsequent lockdowns, statistics have shown that there has been a sharp rise in reported incidents of domestic violence. Domestic abuse organisations have observed increased household tension and domestic violence due to coexistence, economic stress and fears about the virus. Increased isolation could create an escalation in abuse, where those who are living with an abusive partner or family member, may be less likely to ask for help.

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